8 Tips for a New Mom
Adjusting to life with a new baby can provide more difficult than some new moms thought originally. For me the love I had for my new daughter was greater then I could have ever imagined but I faced challenges I never imagined either.
Don’t start a schedule too soon. Although my first was put on a schedule right away and did great on it when I tried to schedule my second child we faced major challenges and since then with my other two I have tried to do a mix of parent led and baby led scheduling.
Trust your gut. I’m a big believe in trusting your gut, I believe that we as parents have a gut feeling and need to learn to trust it. When you feel something is not right be your child’s advocate and stand firm in your feelings. It’s better to hear you were wrong after speaking your opinion than not say anything and have that gut feeling be right.
Invest in a good swaddle. Although I personally do not believe you need much for a new baby and feel like we over purchase due to how cute things are and the newest trends, I am a big believe in a good swaddle. For my first child we used the SwaddleMe brand swaddle and it worked for it’s intended purpose, but then when she was about four months old I was gifted a Love to Dream swaddle and will never buy another brand. This swaddle has been used with my three other children since birth and I truly believe it was the best purchase I have made to help my children sleep.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. For some reason new moms don’t feel comfortable asking for help a lot of times, I sure didn’t. I think this made my transition to parenthood a lot harder than it had to be and lead to more crying sessions than I want to admit. We are all human and we all need help. Find a trusted support system and don’t be afraid to ask for help when needed.
Be present. As my forever baby continues to grow I look back and see all the times I told my kids I was too busy to do things with them. We as society are taught to fill our days with things and all too often we miss the moments because of the things. Try to carve out sometime each day to really be present with your child. If you can develop this habit early on it will make it a daily practice for the rest of their childhood and something both you and them will cherish.
Be willing to learn. Due to my previous parenting classes and education I truly believed I had this parenting thing figured out and when things didn’t go how they were “supposed to” I got very frustrated. Over the years I have learned that finding resources and help during this difficult times is a better use of my energy then getting frustrated with myself. As parents there are always new recommendations and guidelines, be willing to learn these and apply what you believe is right to your parenting practices.
No matter what you do you can’t please everyone. With social media there’s a feeling that we as mom’s need to broadcast every milestone, every cute picture and every funny statement our kids say but as parent’s we need to be able to see that putting our lives out there shows only half the story. No parent is perfect and although everyone around you may seem to be the perfect parent they aren’t. Do the best you can for your children and take any judgement or criticism with a grain of salt.
Take time for yourself. Mommy burnout is real. I know when I don’t take time for myself I am not the parent I want to be. Run an errand by yourself. Watch a TV show by yourself. Do what you need to do to reset and be the mom you want to be.
Everything said here is my opinion, I am not a doctor nor do I have any medical background. My experience is strictly what has guided this post and my recommendations. Always use your best judgement as a parent and consult your pediatrician if you have questions and concerns.