Top 10 Signs It's Time to Sleep Train (Part Two)
Previously we discussed different signs it maybe time to sleep train and we are continuing that now. Each family has different reasons to sleep train and even if your family’s reason are different, if you feel it’s time trust yourself.
6. You're not sleeping next to your spouse and/or your relationship is suffering - This is probably one of the most common issues that happens when a couple is sleep deprived- they often aren't even sleeping in the same bed anymore because of their nightly intruder, and are just barely surviving. After all, it’s hard to even have common courtesy when you’re extremely sleep deprived, let alone nurture a healthy, thriving marriage. One wise, older couple told my husband and I when we had our first baby that “all is forgiven between the hours of 11pm-6am” because those are the hours when you are most prone to say something you regret. And boy, was that true! If you find yourself snapping at your spouse and having a short fuse because of your child being up all night, it is time to take steps towards more sleep.
7. You dread bedtime - Or naptime, or early mornings…if your daily routines are marked by battles, crying, stalling, or yelling, it’s time for a change. These times are meant to be sweet, calm, bonding and nurture-filled times. It may take some work to get there, but it will be worth it!
8. Child has short attention span and trouble focusing - Research has shown over and over how chronic sleep deprivation effects children's ability to learn, concentrate, form long-term memories, and persevere in the face of challenges. It's not overstating it to say that helping your child to learn to get consolidated sleep through the night helps lay the foundation for academic and developmental success later. A recent review of academic literature on infant sleep concluded that there is "positive association between sleep, memory, language, executive function, and overall cognitive development in typically developing infants and young children."
9. Your child is over 9 months but still has multiple feeds overnight - Some moms are perfectly happy with continuing to feed their child multiple times over night, even well past the time when the baby may actually need it for physical growth. If it’s working for everyone and baby really isn’t cranky or overtired during the day (falling asleep on the go, being hyper or “wired”, or fighting naps, are other signs of a sleep deprived child), then you don’t have to change it. But, usually multiple feeds at this age is a sign that baby has never learned to self-settle, is not taking enough calories during the day (so may not be getting well-established on solids), and is probably not getting the consolidated sleep he really needs.
10. You’re suffering from post-partum depression - Post-partum depression can happen to any mom for a whole host of reasons, or for no reason at all. But not only can the sleep-deprivation that a newborn brings be a huge contributing factor in developing PPD, it can also prolong it unnecessarily. A large part of PPD recovery is self-care, and that certainly starts with the most basic of things- sleep. Give yourself the gift of health and recovery, and your child the gift of their mom at their best.
If any of these hold true for you or your family, please feel free to contact us today. We don’t want you to go through motherhood alone. We want you to have a trusted source of knowledge and empathy to help you through lives difficult moments.